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matters of the heart
A sanctuary for reflection, reconnection, and remembering what matters most.
Welcome to Matters of the Heart—a quiet, nourishing corner of You Matter Holistic Healing. Here, we honor the many layers of your being with gentle offerings to tend your body, awaken your mind, and soothe your soul. Whether you’re seeking insight, presence, or poetry, this space is here to meet you.
May it feel like a deep breath, a warm blanket, a soft place to land. Come as you are. You belong here.
Holding the Holidays: Why This Season Feels So Big in Our Bodies
The holidays live in the body as much as the mind. Seasonal sights, sounds, and memories can stir tenderness, tension, and everything in between. Here is why this season feels so big, and how to meet it with gentleness.
Shaelyn Cataldo
Nov 193 min read
Dancing With Imposter Syndrome
Imposter syndrome often whispers through the inner critic and self-doubt, telling us we are not ready or enough. Yet these feelings can also guide us toward deeper integrity and growth. When we pause, get curious, and tend to what’s beneath the doubt, we uncover that the trembling at our edge is not proof of inadequacy. It’s actually evidence that we are expanding into who we are becoming.
Shaelyn Cataldo
Oct 94 min read
Learning to Celebrate the Unseen Wins: Why Healing Isn’t Always Loud
Not all healing is loud. This reflection explores how to notice and honor the quiet moments of growth like setting a boundary, softening a reaction, or finally saying no. Learn how to gently celebrate yourself, even when no one else sees it.
Shaelyn Cataldo
Sep 84 min read
Calm Is Not the Same as Regulated: Somatic Healing for the Nervous System
Regulation is about more than staying calm—it’s about teaching your nervous system safety. Through simple somatic practices like grounding, breathwork, and orienting, you can learn to meet yourself with compassion and expand your capacity to handle life’s challenges.
Shaelyn Cataldo
Sep 24 min read
Attunement vs Hypervigilance: A Guide to Nervous System Healing
Learn the difference between hypervigilance and attunement, and how therapy can help you reconnect to yourself, regulate your nervous system, and build safer, more connected relationships.
Shaelyn Cataldo
Aug 44 min read
Sensitivity and Shame: Untangling the Two
Sensitivity is not a flaw—it’s a trait often misunderstood and shamed. In this post, we explore how shame becomes attached to sensitivity, especially for highly sensitive people (HSPs), and how trauma-informed, somatic therapy can help you reclaim your emotional strength with compassion and clarity.
Shaelyn Cataldo
Jul 213 min read
Healing the Parentified Daughter: How Emotional Caregiving Shapes Us and How We Begin to Reclaim Ourselves
If you’ve always been the one others relied on—the helper, the fixer, the one who never needed much—you may have been the parentified daughter. It’s a role that forms early and quietly, often without words, shaping how we relate to others, how we carry responsibility, and how hard it can be to rest, receive, or reconnect to our own joy. This piece explores what it means to grow up too soon and what healing can look like now.
Shaelyn Cataldo
Jul 144 min read
The Brave Art of Repair: Returning to Ourselves and Each Other
Emotional repair is the brave work of returning after rupture. It’s not simply saying “I’m sorry. It’s noticing. Naming. Taking responsibility. Offering empathy. And reaching toward reconnection.
Shaelyn Cataldo
Jun 244 min read
When All the Parts Speak at Once: An Invitation into IFS...
Understanding the Many Parts That Live Within You The other day, I sat down at my desk to start a project I’d been putting off. One part...
Shaelyn Cataldo
Jun 173 min read
Mind: Boundaries and the Brain: Why Saying No Can Feel Like a Threat
It's not just emotional—it's neurological. You know you should set the boundary. You even want to set the boundary. But the words...
Shaelyn Cataldo
May 83 min read
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